The Rules of Job Hunting

Ten years ago, Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider co-wrote the best-selling book “The Rules,” a guide based on the authors’ own experiences to help women find “Mr. Right,” and have since written various other versions of the book. Sure, it’s not the most feminism-forward piece of literature, and its success rate is unknown, but when applied to the job search, The Rules actually includes good advice for the job seeker.

Rule No. 1: Be a creature unlike any other. This rule entails adapting a sense of confidence that others around you will notice. As a job seeker, you certainly want to stand out among the competition, and one of the easiest ways to get a potential employer to notice you is through your attitude. The authors also recommend pausing in between sentences (to avoid babbling out of nervousness), listening intently and standing up straight, all things that will also help job candidates convey poise and professionalism in an interview.

Rule No. 2: Show up to dances, parties and social events even if you do not feel like it. This Rule emphasizes one of the most valuable steps in job-searching: networking. It’s hard to find the One if you’re sitting at home in front of a computer. Make an effort to meet new people and try new things, and you may just meet someone who knows of a job that’s perfect for you.

Rule No. 3: Don’t waste time on a fantasy relationship. Be realistic in your job search. If you’re not getting any responses, look at the types of jobs to which you are applying. Are you shooting too high? Of course you should apply for the job you want, but be aware of what you are not qualified for. Remain aware of what your experience qualifies you for.

Rule No. 4: When placing a personal ad, remember that every man has a type, a voice or a look he likes. Think of your cover letter as your personal ad, because in many ways it is your chance to make yourself sound attractive to employers. Tailor it to the wants and needs of the employer and the specific position for which you’re applying.

Rule No. 5: If he doesn’t call, he is not interested. Period. Show interest, but don’t waste time on a company that’s just not responsive. When it comes to job hunting, its okay and often necessary to make the first move. You should always follow up a resume with a phone call a few days later and send a thank you note after the interview. But while it pays to be persistent, don’t ne annoying. If weeks pass by and you’ve still gotten no response, take a hint from this Rule and move on.

Rule No. 6: Buyer Beware. Observe his behavior so that you do not end up with Mr. Wrong. Remember that your interview is also a chance for you to ask questions and make assessments. Just because a company likes you does not mean that you will like that company. Consider whether the job and company you’re applying at are a true fir for you. Ask yourself if you could honestly see yourself working there. How does the boss treat his employees? Do the employees seem to like the company? Your job search, much like your search for Mr. Right, is about finding the right fit for you.