FSS Newsletter :: February 2003
Becoming a Human Lie Detector
It's easier than you think to become a human lie detector.
Look for Suspicious Behaviors:
By themselves, each of these
behaviors can just be signs of stress, or even a person's
natural mannerisms. One can occur by chance, but when two
or more of these behaviors suddenly appear at a moment when
lying could be expedient. For example, when you ask a salesman
how reliable that used car is, it suggests he's lying.
Here's
the top eight list of suspicious behaviors:
- A change in the
voice's pitch.
- A change in the rate of speech.
- A sudden increase in
the number of "ums" and "ahs."
- A change
in eye contact. Normally, one makes eye contact one-quarter
to
one-half of the time. If suddenly, at the convenient
moment to lie, he's
staring at you or looking away, beware.
- Turning his body
away from you, even if just slightly.
- Suddenly being
able to see the white on the top and bottom of a person's
eyes, not just the sides.
- A hand reaching, even if momentarily,
to cover part of the face, especially
the mouth.
- Nervous movement of feet or legs.
Of course, in order
to notice a change, you need a baseline. So you must
first watch the person when talking about innocuous issues.
Also look for mixed signals. When someone's telling the truth,
her words, her face and her body language are all congruent.
For example, if a person is honestly saying
that she likes you, her face is usually relaxed, offering
a gentle smile and warm eyes. Her body is calm and open.
But when she's lying, something is usually inconsistent.
In the most obvious case, she may be saying
she likes you, but she's not smiling. She may even have a
clenched fist. Better liars can muster a smile, but it doesn't
look natural. Even better liars can put on a convincing
smile, but their eyes
aren't smiling. Still better liars can control
their entire face, but their bodies seem closed
or cold. Look for mismatches between words and body language.
When you've gotten a signal -- a change in body language
or a mixed signal that the person may be lying -- ask for
more information about the same topic. Are those same lying
signs apparent? That can confirm your suspicion. Of course,
there's no foolproof way to detect lying. Some people are
terrific at covering themselves up, especially if they are
naturally emotionally flat or have practiced their
lying skills over many years -- certain political
leaders come to mind. But if you look for behavior changes
and mixed signals at lying-expedient moments, you will improve
your BS detector. |