FSS Newsletter :: July 2002

Better Relationships: Avoid Getting Into A Relationship That Will Almost Certainly Fail

By Dennis R. Tesdell

Both men and women do much the same things when they are trying to meet their needs relationships-wise. These are some of the more common things men and women do when searching for love or for a serious personal relationship. In each case, it will *probably* not work out or succeed, or if it does, it will not be a "healthy" relationship.

Everything about the other person tells your head and "gut" they are not the one for you, but you ignore your intuition and mind and go ahead anyhow!

You fear or hate being alone, so you latch onto the first person that comes by and is available. This is *so* common!

You mix up someone being nice or friendly with you with romantic or love feelings.

Force their desire for a relationship onto the other person, and because the other person doesn't know how to say "no," they stay with you This can turn into a "co-dependent" relationship and be very unhealthy for both people.

Even though you know this person has done bad things to other people in past relationships, you choose to believe that he/she will not do the same things to you in your relationship. They will.

Anything Is Possible

If there was ever a time to dare,
to make a difference,
to embark on
something worth doing,

IT IS NOW.

Not for any grand cause, necessarily...
but for something that tugs at
your heart,
something that's your inspiration,
something that's your dream.
You owe it to yourself
to make your days here count.

HAVE FUN.

DIG DEEP.

STRETCH.

DREAM BIG.

Know, though, that things worth doing
seldom come easy.
There will be good days.
And there will be bad days.
There will be times when you want to turn around,
pack it up,
and call it quits.
Those times tell you
that you are
pushing yourself,
that you are not afraid to learn by trying.

PERSIST.

Because with an idea,
determination,
and the right tools,
you can do great
things.
Let your instincts,
your intellect,
and your heart,
guide you.
TRUST.

Believe in the incredible power of the human mind.
Of doing something that
makes a difference.
Of working hard.
Of laughing and hoping.
Of lazy
afternoons.
Of lasting friends.
Of all the things that will cross your path
this year.
The start of something new
brings the hope of something great,

ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE.