Better Relationships: Avoid Getting Into a Relationship That Will Almost Certainly Fail

By Dennis R. Tesdell

Both men and women do much the same things when they are trying to meet their needs relationships-wise. These are some of the more common things men and women do when searching for love or for a serious personal relationship. In each case, it will *probably* not work out or succeed, or if it does, it will not be a "healthy" relationship.

Everything about the other person tells your head and "gut" they are not the one for you, but you ignore your intuition and mind and go ahead anyhow!

You fear or hate being alone, so you latch onto the first person that comes by and is available. This is *so* common!

You mix up someone being nice or friendly with you with romantic or love feelings.

Force their desire for a relationship onto the other person, and because the other person doesn't know how to say "no," they stay with you This can turn into a "co-dependent" relationship and be very unhealthy for both people.

Even though you know this person has done bad things to other people in past relationships, you choose to believe that he/she will not do the same things to you in your relationship. They will.

Remember, the best indicator of future behavior is always past behavior.