Stop Waiting On Your Life

By Kathy Gates

This week I was sitting on the phone with tech support, over and over again I thought of things I could have been doing while I sat there on hold, not living my life.

Are you on hold in your life?

Are you just waiting for something good to just happen along? Are you waiting to find the motivation or organization you need? Are you waiting on a great job to just fall into your lap? Perhaps the Lottery?

Stop waiting on your life! The only difference between you and the people who are getting what they want is that they keep moving forward. Here are some ideas to get you going.

Analyze it.

Did you know that a full 80% of your problems come from 20% of your life? It’s true! Determine what the 20% is that’s affecting so much of your life and start working to make it happier, more efficient and more satisfying.

Assign Value

A big mistake many people make is not assigning a true value to your time, to your energy and to your money. Realize for each action you say Yes to—you have said No to something else. Ask yourself—is this “valuable” enough to me to crowd my life with, or even bump something else from my closet, my schedule, my money?

Establish Routines

I know you have “pizza night”—so why not “bills night” or clean your room night as well? Like the pizza night, routines show up in all kinds of ways in your life. While they sound boring and confining, routines are actually freeing. The same way you don’t have to think about dinner or pizza night, instead of being worried and anxious on Monday morning wondering if you remembered to pay the car insurance, you’ll feel calm knowing that you always pay the bills on Wednesday evening. Routines take the stress out.

Accept Control-ability

We’ve all heard about deniability from political spin doctors. Let me introduce the concept of ‘controllability’ in your life. You can’t control world politics, but you can vote. You can’t control the construction crews on the highway, but you can control how much time you allocate for your trip. Knowing what you can control and exercising that, and letting go of what you can’t puts you in the driver’s seat of your life.

Feeling good about yourself will come naturally when you stop waiting and start creating the life you really want to live. Stress and frustration will be reduced as you make choices instead of being pushed around. You’ll experience a higher sense of self acceptance, and the self improvement will become easier and easier. Stop waiting, start today!